Great article about self-efficacy, enthusiasm, motivation, and perseverance, … and the anime character Shoyo Hinata. See the original and more on the blog Crushing the Moon (https://crushingonthemoon.wordpress.com/2018/07/01/thoughtful-moments-6-is-shoyo-hinata-delusional/)
Shoyo Hinata is a tiny boy with huge dreams. He knows that volleyball is a sport dominated by extremely tall players, and yet at just over 5′ 4″ he wants to become a national champion more than anything. However, he has almost no experience whatsoever with volleyball. Still, he’s determined to work his hardest and fight his way to the national stage. Hinata’s seemingly endless enthusiasm, motivation, and perseverance is his most defining as well as his most endearing trait. This boy has proved that he won’t stop or give up, even when the challenge he faces seems impossible. Although some of the other Haikyu!! characters took more time for me to appreciate (I’m looking at you, Kageyama) I fell in love with Hinata’s boundless energy and cheerfulness immediately.
There’s a psychological construct known as self-efficacy, which basically tells us that our belief in our ability to accomplish a task greatly increases our likelihood of achieving it. In short, seemingly impossible challenges can be conquered if we just believe in ourselves. Hinata’s endless optimism is basic self efficacy–it’s what allows him to improve at such a rapid rate. As long as this wannabe volleyball star has faith in himself, we as an audience feel happy and reassured that he can in fact reach his goal. Hinata’s enthusiasm and determination gives us hope.
Parental Alienation More than twenty years ago the late author and renowned child psychiatrist Richard A. Gardner coined the term Parental Alienation Syndrome. He used this term to characterise the breakdown of what was previously normal and healthy parent-child relationships during divorce and child custody cases. The definition of parental alienation according to Gardner is simple. One parent (in […]
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Impressive (depressing) figures. Thanks for sharing as this is of uttermost importance.
I’m practicing here for drafting letters to Gates and co.
Why do these rich/powerful not change the world for the better? Because they just habitually might not change their convictions that made them multi-billionaires? Because they don’t see the chain of causes leading to inequality?
Regarding Bill Gates, for example, of course, one can argue that the development of the Personal Computer did a lot of great things for some people (not the majority of the world population though). I believe, however, that likely somebody else in a similar environment would have come up with a similar advancement. We probably wouldn’t have missed out on computers without Bill Gates. And although Gates and Buffet are from an absolute number perspective praised to be the most generous donators to (their own) foundations, they obviously care before anything else to remain the richest people in the world. Is that really so adorable? They don’t change the game; they only fight some symptoms of the sick system they are profiting from. And maybe they fight also their guilty conscience and feel good about being applauded to be generous?
The rich and powerful who still could buy and influence everything with only a fraction of their current fortune could invest into social impact businesses, empower awareness and education, and enable cooperative governance models to foster democracy and equality to eradicate hunger. There are obvious (or not for them?) ways to let benefit more people from the earthly resources that are extracted primarily for the enrichment of very few. Even if the money is not inherited and if one justifies his/her wealth compared to others’ poverty with a superiority in smartness or industriousness, does that justify amassing, holding back money that could help children from dying of hunger? How hypocritical is it to revel in grief about natural disasters or accidents, while forgetting systematically human-made, constant, and long-term poverty that is the cause for more than 20,000 children dying every single day?!
Even when they have lived their life and could survive with a couple of billion dollars, why do they still not change for making an systematic positive impact? Whose slaves are they? Slaves of their fear? Fear of not being obedient to the capitalist system? They ARE the system of capital as they control a significant part of it. Fear of themselves? Fear of looking into the mirror?! I already hear the reasoning that I don’t have the right to speak that way as I also enjoy privileges. This is not entirely accurate, because when all the volunteering and level of modesty (avoidance of unnecessary luxury/waste) put into proportional perspective, it is definitively in better support of a sustainable world. And let’s not forget the impact of promoting systematic change for all (e.g., by fostering democratically, cooperatively (instead of capitalistically) owned companies), instead of one’s own elitist circles only.
These are the strikingly game-changing questions I’d like to ask them and other fearful obedient directly. Let’s help our children to become courageous and strong leaders, happy in modesty but ambitious in their positive social impact for all.
On the importance of persistence. We never know how close to the ‘breakthrough’ we already are. Don’t give up:-)
Original article at https://dailyinspirationandgratitude.com/2017/06/06/how-come-nothing-seems-to-change-for-the-better-self-improvement/
“What happens when you pursue your dreams and goals? You believe you have done everything ‘right’ but you see no evidence of change. Circumstances remain the same or even get worse. You think, ‘what on earth is going on? It is worse than before!’
Economist Dr. Rudi Dornbusch said, ‘Things takes a much longer time coming than you think, and then it happens much faster than you would have thought.” Napoleon Hill shared a very similar concept. The time it takes is the time it takes. You can’t force it.
Essentially, Hill said, when people pursue money, it takes as long as it takes, but when it comes it does so fast it is scary. Hang in there. A seed planted takes time to bear fruit. Be patient. It is darkest before the dawn. Sometimes, it is very dark and turbulent prior.
Difficult Roads Often Lead To Beautiful Destinations
Hill said of the 520 richest people on earth that he studied and modeled, all of them had disappointment after disappointment, even catastrophe before breaking through. Similar to a roller coaster ride there were numerous uphill climbs and down times. It was tough.
This tends to happen almost without exception. When you decide to go after things you shake things up and make changes in the atmosphere. You pursue and you struggle. The journey may be difficult and long. You can’t see when it will come. You must trust.
How you wait is then secret ingredient. It is not THAT you wait but HOW you wait. Trust the universe’s timing. It is out of your hands. You can’t know everything. I saw an info graphic today. It read, ‘A Rolls Royce takes six months to make, a Toyota takes thirteen hours’.
Until You Are Broken You Don’t Know What You Are Made Of
Learn to have faith. This means letting go of how it shows up AND when it shows up. Trust, means knowing it will show up at the right moment. Hill stated, you must remain passionate and certain you will make it happen. Expect it, even though you don’t know when.
Certainty in the face of opposition IS how we grow. If it were easy we wouldn’t evolve much. Having to believe and keep the faith in spite of obstacles, and in spite of no evidence anything will happen for us, is how we develop this certainty. How else would we?
We grow by opposition, just as muscles grow by resistance. Consider the time between the moment you decide to make it happen and the moment it does happen, as your time to learn and evolve into the kind of wonderful person you can be. It is you very special time.
The Caterpillar Doesn’t Know It Is Going To Become A Butterfly
You will encounter doubts, opposition, worry, fear and down times. Feel blessed. Whenever these occur it is an opportunity to make changes. If you think, ‘it will never happen. I can’t do it.’ This is a belief you have held. Now, that it is up and in the open, change it.
It reared its head for you. You are facing it. It isn’t in the dark. It is out in the open. NOW, is when you can do something about it. Now, is when you can shift to the belief you would prefer to have. Now, you can take charge and learn to manage your thoughts and feelings.
Making the decision to go after your dream, pursuing it and waiting expectantly while you pursue it, is all part of making it happen. The seed grows under the cover of the earth and you can’t see exactly when it will break through. It will. Have faith. Be grateful for the journey. Gratitude will make the journey much more delightful and easier. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes
Law Of Attraction Magazine published one on my blogs. Check out the magazine and their other cool articles.
Such an important message! An example of a mother who did, through a lot of self-reflection and awareness, break the vicious cycle of abuse. The informative general article propagates that, for example, the emotional abuse happening in Paternal Alienation (depriving a child of a parent after the separation of the parents) and other kinds of child abuse, don’t have to repeat. The article believes in the possibility that a parent, even with its frustrating history and circumstances, can control his/her behavior in the interest of the child.
For further information, see https://mathias-sager.com/2017/05/31/recognizing-the-parental-alienation-syndrome-pas/
When you are abused as a child you tend to carry some of the hurt and anger with you into adulthood. This is what causes a never-ending cycle of abuse and can be carried out in different ways. You can abuse yourself, friends, a significant other or even your own children. When this happens the abuse attaches to another person which in return is attached to another and so on and and so forth.
While this can most certainly be an unfortunate outcome it does not have to be. You have more control over this than you may think. All it really takes is a lot of self-reflection and self-awareness. If and when you recognize you are reflecting abusive behavior, stop and analyze what you are doing. Promise yourself that you will never do it again, apologize to whom you have abused, and most importantly forgive yourself. The hardest part is getting through your denial as this is so often the first reaction you can have out of defense especially when someone you care about tells you that your are abusive.
According to Childhelp.org during one case study it was found that 80% of 21-year-olds that reported child abuse met the criteria for at least one psychological disorder. This is proof that childhood abuse greatly impacts the chances of developing into a healthy, well-adjusted adult.
If you were sexually, physically or emotionally abused as a child then there is a very high chance that you will repeat the same abusive behavior you experienced towards your own children. This is where the never ending vicious cycle of child abuse carries on and will continue until it is stopped. You can stop the cycle by recognizing what abusive behavior is and to make it a priority to never repeat what was done to you in any way, shape or form. Of course with extreme cases, such as sexual abuse, it would be best to seek professional help.
Coming from my own experience, I would catch myself at times repeating some of the emotional abusive behavior I experienced as a child towards my own children. It scared me when I recognized what I was doing and I immediately stopped the behavior, but most importantly I apologized to my children, hugged them and promised I would never do it again.
If you are concerned that you might be continuing the vicious cycle of abusive onto your children here are some common abusive traits to look for.
Constantly criticizing your child for little things.
Physically or verbally threaten your child.
You threaten the child not to tell anyone.
People have told you that you get angry when drinking alcohol.
You destroy your child’s toys in front of them as punishment.
You have clenched teeth or hands when reprimanding your child.
Your child cowers or flinches when you make sudden movement towards them.
Your child rarely seeks your affection or avoids being around you.
You feel a surge of rage when you witness your child doing something wrong.
You yell or scream at your child.
Your first instinct is to hit your child to teach them a lesson.
You accuse or reprimand your child for things you think they might do.
You isolate your child from family.
You withhold affection from your child or are emotionally distant.
You are easily irritated when hearing your child laugh or speak.
You don’t allow your child to be who they are and try to mold them into who you want them to be.
You encourage your child to be aggressive towards other children.
You encourage, condone or make excuses for your child’s bad behavior or manners.
You have unhealthy sexual boundaries or thoughts towards your children.
You expose your child to dangerous environments.
Recognizing abusive behavior is the first step to stopping what you are doing and ending the vicious cycle of child abuse. You have all of the control and strength to do this without question. So, let’s do what we can starting today to raise happy, well adjusted children because they are our future.
I’d like to share this because of the helpful summary and recommendation for John Maxwell’s “No Limits” by Craig T. Owens.
The book is built around John Maxwell’s capacity challenge, which says, “If you grow in your awareness, develop your abilities, and make the right choices, you can reach your capacity. In other words: Awareness + Ability + Choices = Capacity.”
I share the experience that Maxwell’s books are inspiring and utterly useful in the quest for further personal development. From the same author I can also recommend “The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth” and “Thinking for a Change: 11 Ways Highly Successful People Approach Life and Work”as listed on the Resources page on my site.
I got reminded by this article how little I share by re-blogging. However, I enjoy so many articles and often do also comment as part of my blogging activity. Why shouldn’t this be made transparent to all followers (without to overwhelm with too many posts, of course)?
So, living by example, I try to share a bit more of great content I come across in the WordPress community that fits and meaningfully complements the current topics on my site. Hope you will enjoy and find value-add!