Parental Gatekeeping and Alienation

Without parents having done something wrong, the socio-cultural environment and some mothers themselves can be non-supportive regarding equality in parenting, even in cases where mutual parenting would be logistically feasible. For children at any age, anger, anxiety, and sadness can carry the risk to lead to depression and developmental problems. Are you concerned and missing the cooperation from your partner to find a solution suitable for the child? Then it … Continue reading

Fathers: More than a playmate

There may be two primary caregiver roles: one of a secure haven and one of exploration and discovery. These functions are not gender-specific though. Across different cultures, fathers who are alone with their children show similar behavior as mothers. Dual attachment offers the opportunity for children to build sensitive relationships with their fathers too, which is important for their development throughout life. Awareness should be increased regarding the risks and (socio-cultural) barriers … Continue reading

Different Types of Attachment and Socio-emotional Development Throughout the Lifespan

An infant requires a stable establishment of relational trust that is nourished by positive emotional and social connections with a primary caregiver (e.g., father, mother, or grandparent, etc.). Attachment types, such as the healthiest secure attachment style, determine the socio-emotional development and how someone manages social relationships across the lifespan. Differences in parenting and resulting attachment styles need to be put into cultural perspective. Secure attachment at any age can … Continue reading

June 1st was World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day (WNAAD)

World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day (WNAAD) is a global, online movement to raise awareness about the damaging impact of narcissistic abuse. Join the cause, and help spread awareness by taking part in this international event. I love their slogan ‘If My Wounds Were Visible’ as it brings to the point the severity of emotional abuse. A person’s mind is not less intimate, vulnerable, and critical for survival than his/her body. In … Continue reading

Recognizing the ‘Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)’

Introduction Children’s biggest wish is to maintain a healthy and strong relationship with both parents; in some cases, a parent fosters distance or even the child’s rejection of the other parent, despite the deep-seated desire to experience mutual love between them and their both parents (Kruk, 2013, April 25). (See also article Divorce: Regular overnight stays with dad are the best for small children / Scheidung: Regelmässige Übernachtungen bei Papa sind … Continue reading

SIGN THE PETITION (Loving parent/father initiative, Liebende Eltern/Vaeter Initiative)

 Petition Loving parent / father initiative (EN) English. The “Loving Parent/Father Petition” is asking legislation for a juster parenting practice. Whenever feasible and wished by the parents, as well as provided that no official evidence exists that a child would be exposed to a harmful parent, balanced co-parenting agreements based on gender equality should be enabled right after a couple’s separation, regardless of the current and former marital status. Shared custody has to be kept … Continue reading

Divorce: Regular overnight stays with dad are the best for small children / Scheidung: Regelmässige Übernachtungen bei Papa sind das Beste für kleine Kinder

After parents’ divorce, regular overnight stays with dad are best for most young children (Professor Richard A. Warshak) Summary Awareness is growing that also for separated parents shared parenting is best for their children Scientific findings make clear that misinformation and policies around one-sided custody practices have to be revised Double standards regarding shared parenting in relationships and one parent’s full-time presence in case of divorce or separation are causing … Continue reading

Shared parenting research / Geteilte Kinderfürsorge (Forschungsstand)

Summary of the essential points Balanced and meaningful contact with each parent in the course of everyday life is a most powerful predictor of a child’s future health, well-being, and positive social functioning Maternal and paternal parenting is equally important for a child’s well-being Research on children’s overnights with fathers favors allowing children under four to be cared for at night by each parent rather than spending every night in … Continue reading

Welcome to the ‘Loving Father Initiative’ / Willkommen zur ‘Liebender Vater Initiative‘

#LovingFatherInitiative You know, my daughter, I care. Your loving dad German and Japanese versions see below Welcome to the Loving Father Initiative This initiative is for our daughters, for all children missing their fathers, and for the sad dads (and mothers) who are suffering from the socially perpetuated uncritical assumption that mothers would be naturally and culturally predestined to be the sole caregiver for a couple’s child. Although a family’s … Continue reading

Relational aggression in the form of maternal gatekeeping

Relational aggression Human aggressive behavior is any intentional causation of harm to others, and increasingly severe acts of aggression can represent even violence (Anderson & Bushman, 2002). Anderson and Bushman (2002) distinguish between instrumental and hostile aggression, the former being a means to reach a goal and the latter being a reactive impulse to harm an opponent. Relational aggression, as defined by Oka, Brown, and Miller (2016), constitutes a specialty … Continue reading

Answer for fatherlessness

There’s a reason why you couldn’t give birth alone Do you think it’s natural to create a fatherless home? There’s confusion why as a child you were lone Do you think it’s common that fathers are gone? There’s a bitter coldness in a manless syndrome Do you think you could choose better and overcome? There’s a lovingly caring father waiting at home Do you think our daughter too shouldn’t have one? There’s … Continue reading