What a significant purpose of life: Life isn’t about learning to fit in somewhere; it is about creating somebody new.
Of course, you may want to stay social and cooperative with people in your life. However, with time, the nature of these relationships might transform as your awareness regenerates. Separation from yourself and others means, in a psycho-spiritual way, that you let go of your identity, which is based on social conformity and cultural beliefs that would be misbeliefs in a different culture. You also must let go of attachment to others’ judgments, which are opinions only and have little if anything to do with truth. By distancing yourself from the idealized role you have learned to assume during all the years of education, socialization, and enculturation, you begin to see who you really are.
Don’t waste your thoughts on interpreting equipment, façade styles, and fashions. They are not relevant to our true selves, and they go as fast as they came. We are not our social personalities. Clinging to our social identity and old ways of thinking about ourselves makes us, in any case, matter less than we deserve. Artificial rules that protect selfish interests are not natural laws of life. So don’t take them so seriously!
Children are dependent on the care received from their parents and other adults in the culture they are born into. For them, inter-psychological learning, the influence of other people is unavoidable. Their survival depends on following their caregivers. Such dependencies should not exist anymore later in life, though. An adult person can re-build their own identity intra-psychologically. There is a possibility, even a necessity to recognize your socio-cultural independence. It is a trap to let others’ opinions and beliefs define one. Therefore, such an awareness allows you to free yourself from backward-related definitions of your person by others.
Losing one’s identity
When I moved abroad and ended up being on myself in a completely different culture, there was nobody and nothing anymore that would have supported and validated my identity at that time. For my new environment far away from my former social networks, jobs, and possessions that had defined me to a significant extent for a long time, too, I then was left to be just an unknown foreigner. Therefore, I could not and did not have to live up to any story anymore. What an opportunity. I’ve realized how foolish it had been to build one’s personality too much on the unstable ground of externals.
Meanwhile, having left most of the external things and values behind, there has remained one true identity-giving source: The inner self that connects all of us on a deeper human level. I’ve found this true self when mentalizing back to before I had grown into an adult body, before I was associated with a particular social status and related privileges, and before I started to hold on to a variety of achievements and acquisitions. Then, literally as an alien in a foreign country, I became aware of what was left, what will always be left, and I mentally returned to the core of whom I am: The consciousness that is all and my origin of life. For all my life, I was looking for happiness. Then I found meaning. And when I accepted meaning, happiness became meaningless. That’s when I started to really enjoy life again; joy through the effort to create awareness-intelligently an identity instead of blindly assuming one that’s tried to be assigned to me. That’s also when I better understood what it means to be an artist.
When you experience meaninglessness, low motivation, and urges to give up, it is helpful to check the extra-future element and probe its awaring, for example, as follows. Ask yourself: Am I creating in line with life, the life that continues in all human evolution beyond my family, my party, my nation, my race, etc., or do I identify with such social constructs on which can’t be hold on to in the perishable physical world? If it is the latter, feelings of meaninglessness could stem from such a misidentification. One might feel that clearly when losing somebody close when having lost a job, or being rejected from a social group. We must die to our ego during a lifetime voluntarily. As we shift from socio-cultural group identity to a universally valid life membership, we will have found our purpose in life as well. The ego cannot be overcome by disabling the mind (as sometimes advertised in meditation classes). Selflessness is achieved by thinking awareness-intelligently about the egoless self, through non-transactionality in meeting others and focusing on a mutually beneficial future in all humanity’s interest.
Achieving a symmetrical, congruent (awareness-intelligent) identity
We can clearly feel that we separate mental awareness from bodily sensations and instead picture the wholeness and infinity of life. We can change our way of thinking. The most profound, impactful, and sustainable way to change is to change the layer from where thought arises: awareness. The human condition is no longer dependent on social identity alone. It learns to integrate the three modes of the intra-past, the inter-present, and the extra-future into increased and undivided awareness (for the detailed explanation, see https://mathias-sager.com/tag/awareness-intelligence/). As our thoughts and actions become more symmetrical (and our business and private cards more congruent), life will never feel like a lie again.
Becoming a genuine leader is founded on mastering self-leadership and being at peace with oneself and the world. To serve as a role model, one must be ready to give up their title and position. Too dissonant can a professional identity become with the aware self. How could one ever enjoy people who admire rather their title-based authority and social status rather than knowing about their creativity, vulnerability, and loving character in the first place?
You get an understanding and compassionate ear here, but the most significant benefit lies in permitting me to offend you. First of all, if I didn’t dare to offend, I couldn’t be honest. Being offended offers a real-world check outside of one’s comfort zone. Second, if I solely entertained you, I’d waste your time distracting from the real work to be done. I will, however, offend you with substance, so you can accomplish getting very clear on your worldview / identity: Who are you really beyond social conditioning? What would you stand for if you had the self-confidence to overcome social pressure? Why are you here as a complete human being beyond economic considerations? Also, the feeling of being offended is a warning indicator that is showing you where to look within yourself for unresolved issues.
I may offend people, but I also make it easy for them to forgive me. You’re not alone; my content and approaches contain wisdom that offends quite everyone. I love people in general (not only the proximate ones who flatter me), and that’s why I care to offend you too. To be genuinely kind means to have the courage to offend. Of course, people like sugar. But shall I, therefore, feed them with more of what is not suitable for health? I’ve learned that if I love myself, I have the courage to allow me to get offended (which doesn’t mean to let me abuse, though).
If we feel offended without being able to forgive the offender, we actually say to disagree with the Right of Freedom of Expression. By instilling more fear, people become more susceptible to being offended without the willingness to forgive. And that’s how the freedom of expression gets strategically undermined by authoritarian systems. Today people are brought to be offended by others just breathing (we can even see it by people wearing masks;-)). It’s more important than ever to stand up for the right to offend, which is implicitly part of the Right of Freedom of Expression. So, have the courage to use the right to offend “sacred” symbols (who says they are sacred?), offend emotions and feelings, offend countries, governments, organizations, as well as political parties, religions, and traditions, and cultures.
Living in a comfort-seeking and fear-based materialistic society, my humanistic approach rejecting salvation-seeking from extrospection is offending people, of course. For me, however, respecting people doesn’t mean accepting their illnesses, victim roles, and unfulfilled potential.If we respected such unhealthy limitations, we’d offend humanity (and life, or god, as you like) as a whole. Indeed, many people live life in the offense to life itself as they put material goods over life. Yes, we justify our physical survival (which in our society doesn’t have much to do with survival rather than with a decadent luxury lifestyle) by not assuming responsibility for the many who suffer hunger, exploitation, and abuse.
I deliberately combine the science of psychology, the wisdom of philosophy and the intuition of art. Art is often very well suited to insulting people, challenging them and opening them up to creative and self-reflective thinking. Unfortunately, it’s impossible to offend or hurt someone who doesn’t care. This is the reason why people often have no interest in the artistic (or spiritual).
Group thinking inhibits critical thinking in favor of a wider human community. For example, religions proclaim to spread unconditional love and the universal truth of their respective God, but feel offended by other religions that believe in another God, who in turn should represent the same unconditional love and absolute truth according to these others. That’s the big lie of hypocrites on both sides. Such belief systems do base on exclusivity to offer fearful people the seeming security of belonging, which, however, they nevertheless never experience (therefore their defensive attitude). But there is a more inclusive way to feel more satisfyingly human. Learn to love truly! Love is the opposite of fear. If you’ve learned to get offended, you’ve learned to love. Love is hard to offend; a heart full of love doesn’t get irritated and offended irrevocably; it doesn’t see the world in terms of threats against one’s ego-assumed superiority, advantages, and privileges over others. Instead, strongminds who dare to seek being offended, not for hate but growth purposes, can find what humans actually are looking for: actualizing themselves through meaningful change toward their best self (which can’t be measured by material success alone, to make that clear once more).
You may have enough “friends” who will tell you what you want to hear and who are happy that you are unsuccessful (because it justifies their own stagnation). If I can’t offend you, I haven’t done my work of serving you decisively. With this in mind, thank you for allowing us to offend each other, not with style, but with substance for learning opportunities for our personal growth, individually and as a human collective.
BECOME RESILIENT: How to mentally configure the three basic human needs of safety, satisfaction, and connectedness
“Resilience is a process reﬂecting positive adaptation in the face of adversity” [1, p. 1]. What adversity means to different people depends on individual, socio-cultural, and contextual circumstances.
The Big Five or five-factor personality assessment model (FFM) was found to be able to depict the concept of resiliency as a personality aspect as accurately as specific resiliency measurement tools . Personality traits described and assessed with the five-factor model  consist of five mostly independent personality trait dimensions, i.e.,
openness to experience .
A resilient personality is characterized by high scores on the FFM dimensions of extraversion, conscientiousness, agreeableness, and openness to experience, and low scores in neuroticism . Openness to experience seems to be particularly important; it should be seen as’ openness to cultural diversity’ too , including the ability to regulate one’s emotions  and to avoid extensive sensation seeking, which, for example, bears the risk of substance abuse . Equipped with such personal abilities, the rapid (global) changes in our times  caused by ever novel, complex, and changing socio-economical, environmental, technological, and health-related factors  can be met with higher resilience.
Other psychological concepts related to coping with adversity are the so-called ‘tolerance for ambiguity’ and ‘tolerance for uncertainty’ measures. These abilities are closely linked to mindfulness. For example, people educated in open-mindedness and who have learned to tolerate ambiguity can better persevere in their tolerance even in situations of insecurity and danger . In that context, hope as related to resilience is enabling individuals to imagine a better future and to endure the present despite the uncertainty for such an achievement . However, it’s not done with hope alone. A strong belief in and an identification with the possibility of achievement are the drivers for the work ethic that required for the realization of the hope. That way, in a first step, the promotion of hope might be a useful approach to reduce uncertainty intolerance and consequently to increase the tolerance for ambiguity for a more open-mindedness that leaves room for thoughtful and empathic decisions that lead to work towards desired and desirable outcomes.
Yes, a major outcome of resilience is empathy. It’s not threats themselves, but how people can resiliently respond to them. If there is no openness to decipher ambiguous, uncertain information, one risks to take the shortcut of, for example, stereotyping and promote black-and-white thinking that is further hindering an open mindset. A vicious spiral, indeed!
Maslow (1968) made the point that we are oriented toward either growth or safety in our everyday lives and that a growth orientation is more favorable for psychological health and well-being . When self-protection (needs) get reduced, self-awareness can arise and facilitate the appreciation of multiple possibilities in situations, which might be the stage of personal development where tolerance for ambiguity as the capacity to accept paradoxes starts to become feasible . Systems of mass conformity, authoritarianism, and nationalism/racism (as well as an emotional attachment to materialism in general) are offered as a means for safety, unfortunately at the cost of growth possibilities through autonomy, creativity, and the use of reason.
Unfortunately, “dealing with ambiguity, respectively the ability to cope with adversity (resilience) is seldom taught, but individuals striving for higher qualities tend to understand that uncertainty is the gateway to opportunity” [14, p. 30]. Therefore, societies should prepare the next generation for life, and it will be crucial how we instill hope and support our children to live constructively with uncertainties while retaining a high tolerance for ambiguity and open-mindedness as required to be truly resilient and find the solutions sought for the benefit of all .
Practically spoken, to get more resilient, one needs to be ready to adapt her/his belief system. Unfortunately, our ‘stable identity’ obsessed ego causes us to not like change. Nevertheless, as long as there is a fear of loss, there will always be defense mechanisms that hamper open-mindedness, and as a result, resilience too. There is good news, though, to adopt a resilient belief system, the three basic human needs of (1) safety, (2) satisfaction, and (3) connectedness don’t need to be abandoned, while it is essential to think about their socio-temporal ‘configuration’, which I call Awareness Intelligence:
Access your spiritual source, your intuition, free from social conditioning, and as close to the source of life that has brought you here. You are part of the intelligent universe independent of your upbringing; what else could be safer.
Meet others in the here and now openly, without past judgments and future expectations. Such non-transactional and unconditional love brings the highest satisfaction.
Expand from separateness to wholeness. The future isn’t about physical survival as long as possible; it is about meaning and connecting to the whole humanity (even future generations) and our soul during a lifetime. With such a connectedness, future worries dissolve.
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To become a real leader is founded on mastering self-leadership and on being at peace with oneself and the world. For being able to serve as a role model, one has to be ready to give up his or her title and position. Too dissonant can a professional identity become with the aware self.
How could one ever enjoy people who admire rather their title-based authority and social status rather than knowing about their creativity, vulnerability, and loving character in the first place?
As a life begins to readjust to a broader perception of life, jobs for the mere purpose of earning a lot of money might make the place for work with meaning at any price. One’s public and private identities begin to converge, and a deep sense of joy of living a life of awareness always reminds of the possibility to reconcile even the most difficult situations with awareness-intelligent spirituality. One might soon find his or her true passion written not only on a private note but soon also on the publicly shown service card. Social and private identifications merge, and so might roles in different situations.
Not focusing on one specific Awareness Intelligence mode only but integrating the intra-past with the inter-present and the extra-future helps to not go astray in any extreme and unhealthy direction but to reap all the benefits of living a life aware of the threefold nature of life.
Just because you are, in case, diligently and loyally working for somebody else’s dream doesn’t mean that you are right-focused fulfilling your own human potential.
First and most it is your task to be yourself.
Intend what is your source’s intuition and become who you imagine being remembered for.
How do you contribute to the collective human consciousness?
Does it add life-supporting meaning, unconditional love, and timeless kindness?
It can be argued that there are three basic human needs. First is safety. You were safest before birth. In your mother’s womb, you were still well protected. Then the rough, dark, and cold world appeared. On the other hand, also sunshine on your skin, light in your eyes, and later the awareness that consciousness, the spirit of your soul is still and will always be with you. You need to re-connect to your intra-past, your safe source that is always yours.
The second of the three basic human needs is satisfaction. If you look at what you do from a non-judgmental viewpoint that is free of other’s past-based opinion and future pressures, then fearless creation, experimentation, and joyful learning become possible. The same is true for relationships. If you meet others in the here and now without transactional distractions and ulterior motives, if your soul’s need to meet other souls in the inter-presence is met, deep satisfaction ensues.
And third, the need for connection can be met through connecting to all humankind in the extra-future. Billions of others have gone through human life before, and many more will follow in the perpetual renewal and passing of the precarious expression of life. The end of one life is, at the same time, the start of another one. Just within yourself, you can achieve an awaring of how your ‘coming-from’ and ‘going-to’ meet in humantime, which connects you to infinite time and humanity as a whole.
Some people feel alone even among people. And there are people who never feel alone, even when solitary. What is needed is a shift from separateness to wholeness.
It is not our corps connecting the soul to life; it is our soul connecting the body to life. Enjoy your vision, but trust your inner eye. There is no need to physically bind others as there is a deeper connection to whole humanity anyway.
Psychological issues, and by that ultimately any human-related problems, come either from neurosis or character weaknesses. Both are a matter of lack of responsibility and typically lead to symptoms of individual and collective stress. If a society and its members decide to see the world as threatening, hostile, and transactional instead of being determined by love, and if the path to happiness as the highest goal is considered to be depending on what kind of or how much stuff one can accumulate, it is not surprising that this leads to fear of loss, obsessions, and depression. There lie serious responsibility issues in excusing diminished awareness, which lead to selfish, greedy, and passive behavior. Character flaws tend to be excused at all or as illnesses. It appears that it is cheaper for a society to pay for standard treatments, which bring temporary relief of symptoms rather than to invest in the long-term healing of people as whole-human beings. From a financial and law and order perspective, it is more efficient and effective to fight the most extreme symptoms of exclusion, for example, by paying some public assistance and to exploit only to the point that there remains a broad enough middle class that helps defending the privileges of the upper class than to risk a revolution from below. People need to be kept happy enough in their misery that they are still helping to defend the oppressors’ authority. That’s how it came that everybody’s issue and suffering has become nobody’s focus of awareness.
Several psychological mechanisms are explaining how people are brought to justify existing social systems that do even disadvantage them. Social justification theory is about the promotion of ideologies, which underline the belief in the inferiority of underprivileged groups. So, it is a myth that Western societies are based on equality of opportunity. The economic success of most people also depends on the level of resources allocated to them, for example at the workplace or by parents who could afford better education and the necessary capital for entrepreneurial ventures. However, many people today believe in the story of meritocracy and attribute economic inequality to their own inferiority. Such unaware system justification is further blocking critical thinking and can also manifest in system-reinforcing victim blaming and stereotyping.
The saying “It’s all about the perspective” should not become a justification and excuse for any social exclusion or harm to anybody, regardless of how far away and seemingly unrelated.
It is more sensible to assume a multi-perspective awareness that is all-inclusive rather than defending group interests.
People who are not able to coordinate complex multi-limb movements with their body are called disabled and are not allowed to do certain things like, for example, driving a car as it would be too dangerous for others. But people who are unable to coordinate complex multi-perspective situations in their minds are allowed to run organizations and countries.
In contrast to a leg-focused person who forgets about the arm-movement and therefore is realistically considered a risk for driving a vehicle, a single-minded career of exclusively fighting for one particular group’s interest is likely to be admired for its dedication. Standing up for one group to succeed over others from a humanitarian point of view, however, is like prioritizing eating over drinking. The organism of humankind is doomed to die.
It’s time to assume responsibility for one’s scope of awareness. Humanity needs a shift from physical protection to a right intention. A society guided by Awareness Intelligence does not build on barriers, walls, and defense mechanisms anymore because nobody needs to be protected against Awareness Intelligence that can’t but take care of everybody’s needs. Such is the beautiful nature of responsibility of humantime. What else could be more worth to realize?! I, for my part, rather want to have tried.
Highest qualities of the mind do not know fear from failure as only failure to learn falls short of them.
Everybody can develop Awareness Intelligence. Once tasted, the knowing about one’s self-efficacy irrespective of society’s non-responsiveness or punitiveness, is too good to be given up again. Everybody can get the control over one’s access to life source, to meet other people lovingly in the current moment, and to serve the communal good and next generations to come. Even if you are discouraged and rather hopeless about what you can do about your future, you always can start with impacting others’ today and tomorrow, which, in return, will reveal your future to you as well. Your impact is of the full scope of humankind.
Recognize how important you are. Every dream for a better world, every creative act, and even a seemingly naive idea can inspire and provide the courage to break out of the cage of limited knowing.
Think, paint, play music, dance, write, and think again. It’s not commercial products that touch people’s heart most profoundly. It’s what you can do in your mind. It’s not compliance, but boldness that nurtures your, others, and all humankind’s Awareness Intelligence. Every feed into the expansion of knowing is fuel for more awareness-intelligent thought and more wholesome behavior. Life might be right, and an awarian land of awareness not too far away to be already part of now.
As we see ourselves, we see others. And as we see others, we see ourselves. If we reduce humanity to cultural sets of human expression, specific groups, and prevailing opinion and behavior only, we constrain ourselves too. Life is as you see it. If you see it with a continually watching mind, the whole world becomes open to you.
While the human mind respectively the intellect changes over time, the soul does not. We can feel that clearly when we separate mental awareness from bodily sensations and instead picture the wholeness and infinity of life. Our way of thinking can be changed.
The most profound, impactful and sustainable way to change the thinking is to change the layer from where thought arises: awareness.
The human condition is no longer dependent on social identity alone as it learns to integrate the three modes of the intra-past, the inter-present, and the extra-future into increased and undivided awareness. As our thoughts and actions become more symmetrical, life will never feel like a lie again.
Living in consort with a comprehensive ability to observe everything at any time is a source of being youthfully enjoying one’s body, exploring the world, appreciating social encounters, and achieve high learning goals. Living an awareness-intelligently inspired life guarantees continuing motivation to become and stay our best self. For us, this is a deeper experience, and for others, we’ll make a bigger impact.
Hopelessness in the sense of not believing that change is possible leads to depression with the known consequences of low school and work performance, reckless behavior, poor health, self-injury, and even suicide. Multi-cultural competence positively influences a sense of social justice and the promotion of change. The awareness about the possibility of doing things differently across cultures provides a showcase for the relativity of any culture. Global citizenship is not a travel-lifestyle, it should rather be an attitude of compassion. Multi-relational ability in the sense of Awareness Intelligence is a precondition for cross-cultural competence, but goes beyond as it is culture-neutral. Any travel starts within.
Cultural competence can be developed by putting one’s feet in another’s shoes. Awareness Intelligence, however, is putting one’s consciousness in another’s soul.
This will not only enable us to experience some different walks of life but to learn to qualify all of the life’s souls. Real and lasting change comes from the level of mental models that enable awareness. Only if the deep-rooted individual mindsets shift towards forming a regenerated collective of deculturized societal structures, human behavioral patterns will start to change accordingly as well.
Humans like stability to feel safe. Society prefers consistency in people’s behavior to render them into predictable and plannable resources. And yet, people also do not like repetition that leads to boredom. By an awareness-unintelligent mind, everything tends to become judged as boring eventually. However, as people have learned to fear punishment from not reliably contributing to the production and information processes of the modern economic societies, many of them learned to accept monotonous courses of life. While being incentivized by punishment-free long periods of compliance, many forgot the excitement of rhythm and surprising improvisations of a freely lived life. Avoidance is a characteristic of both the awareness-unintelligent inter-past and inter-future. Interdependencies, as they are typical for poor Awareness Intelligence, are justifying the past and controlling the future, which is highly frustrating for individual’s authentic development. Only if the inter-past is shifted to the intra-past, judgment-free and timeless self-realization become possible. And only if the intra- and inter-future are transposed to the extra-future, self-focus and fear of punishment and lack of control disappear.
We can enjoy social interactions together in the inter-present, but the past belongs to us alone, and the future ultimately belongs to all to come.
Isn’t it incredible that
“Men have made millions of laws to punish crimes, and they have not established even one to reward virtue”
as the Neapolitan economist Giacinto Dragonetti already more than 250 years ago remarked?! Societies’ need to define the tolerable appearances and thresholds of punishable deviations from limiting and therefore provocative social norms is in stark contrast to letting people virtuously thrive. Sadly, if not constantly rags were held in front of the bulls’ eyes, all the bulls would remain gentle and friendly as it actually is their true nature.
The universe preserves itself through change, and so humanity too needs change to survive. Change is our nature, and yet typical management education is about controlling change to create the illusion of stability in administering life as a business. Awareness is about acceptance, willingness, and courage; it is the basis of voluntary human adaptability and learning. If you don’t know what you possibly don’t know, you cannot learn what you don’t know. It would be strange if we didn’t increase our view over time, learned more, and consequently changed our mind. Become an attentive and agile dancer who controls the body, cooperates with the mind, and coordinates the congeniality of the souls to dance the socio-temporal dance of life. Every movement is your decision, and harmony comes from being intelligently aware of your, your partners’, and the music’s desire to unfold. When the spirit of the music intuits your individual and collaborative intention to the imagination that the music is just perfectly reflecting the vibes of melted body and soul, Awareness Intelligence has come to play.
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People’s hunger for energy, which they’ve learned to satisfy mainly from the outside, is causing so much exploitation, abuse, and conflict. But there is another way we can become aware of. In states of ideal Awareness Intelligence, when the circle of perpetual life is made aware, and
When a human’s life origin and destiny become one, then the flux of life energy can flow and circulate as well.
It is this state in which we feel, like a magnet, where we are naturally attracted to and what we better keep away.
When we run out of energy, it is generally not that others are responsible for our energy depletion, albeit it is sometimes better to avoid energy suckers, especially when we are not able to maintaining maximal Awareness Intelligence on our side. Our energy balance has much more to do with how we ourselves let energy leak from the energy field of humantime. Life energy is not scarce.
Whether we feel more or less energetic is depending on how intelligently we use awareness to keep the doors to the all-abundant source of life energy in humantime open.
The spring of life energy is within us. The energy that is accessed awareness-intelligently in one’s intra-past is pure energy coming directly from the source of all power. Sharing it in the inter-present, and offering it to the extra-future is gratefully supporting the flow of life. Gratitude for our abounding supply of divine energy keeps the portal to the intra-past open.
Without gratitude, receiving is just consumption.
Energy that is, instead of being fed back to life, kept for oneself, is an irresponsible waste.
Being part of the energetics of an awareness-intelligent life is joy and fills us with all its spirit and vigor.
You can book a 1-to-1 online session to earn your Awareness Certificates as there are currently, due to Covid-19, no onsite nor group events happening.
You can choose from the 18 topics available, each qualifying for a session certificate. For a bundle of 6 sessions, the school issues a module certificate, and for the completion of the whole program (18 sessions), you are granted the highly distinguishable program-level certificate.
As the gap between a global world and a global mindset is increasing, it becomes obvious that the incoherence between organizational and individual psychology can’t much longer be afforded. It’s not only unnecessary individual stress and suffering, but the planet might reach its limits soon too. Therefore, it’s time for Homo conscientia, the aware human to evolve.
Individuals make organizations. So, it’s the individual who needs to be strengthened.
The best way to empower individuals who will be willing and able to serve the full scope of humanity is to enable their agency.
Agency comes from being one’s true self in a world in which there is sufficient belief in the possibility of including everyone in the membership of the human species that manages to share the abundance provided by the planet fairly. The need for domination over others always comes from feelings of powerlessness. Nobody needs to feel impotent though as everybody has the potential to become a fully realized human being. It is crucial to help people finding a coherent meaning to their socio-temporal perception and apprehending humantime as the true reality of human life; then, achieving more awareness-intelligent types and levels of cooperation will be possible too.
If one does not access humantime through the intra-past, the inter-present, and the extra-future, life is mixed up in ways that are harming oneself, others, and everybody. Why is that so? For example, one agonizes in the present moment if thinking and complaining about what somebody else did to them in the past. It is the state of dwelling in the short-sighted inter-past instead of the all sourcing intra-past, which makes people suffer. Another source of suffering arises when people project mistrust towards others into the relatively narrow intra- or inter-future of a mundane life. Such a hostile outlook causes life to seem a curse.
Only the extra-future embraces all humanity and time consequently and, therefore, the sense of a human kinship that can be but all-including love.
Stephen Covey is right when saying that “trust is the glue of life.” Trust connects our future to all humanity, to all human beings, even if we don’t know them, be it because they live somewhere else or because they are not yet born.
When desires are strong, and the will is weak, finding back to living in humantime is preventing a shut-down of the intellect and makes the mind disciplined.
This is the virtuous, robust path of Awareness Intelligence, which connects most careful reasoning with most profound consciousness.
By actively integrating these two ends of awareness, no un-reflected believes will compromise anybody’s potential, and no conditioned automatisms hamper perception, knowing and its intelligent use.
How is it possible to touch a life? A living body today may be a dead one tomorrow. By having felt such a body, have you touched life? Yes, and no. You have touched a temporary expression of it. Life is what is not affected by time and can be found in before earth-time starts to tick and in the never-ending future of the universe. Life in a human being is the part that is unmaterial, that does not weigh a single gram, that lets our hair grow, and which keeps on animating other bodies after the work for our body is done. Life is going on. Here on earth life is always renewing and its forms are evolving, and we are a temporary part of it. What else could be the meaning of any life if not dedicated contribution to life itself?
Helping the gift of life that lets us become aware of its existence in the form of a human being and helping life in others to abound into the future long after we’re already gone again is the highest meaning there is.
How presumptuous would it be to say it is ‘our’ time to come; I could die right now and have only very temporarily been part of life’s unfolding. In any case, I certainly won’t be able to take care of the future for any much longer. So, the tomorrows belong mainly to those who will be there forever: that is to say the next generations. In that sense, it’s everybody’s duty as a member of the human species to be aware of life as fundamentally inter-generational.
To be truly free means to be life itself, as life is what is moving things on, leaving a lot of dead bodies behind. So, while taking care of our bodies to be of this service, a fulfilling and meaningful life does not lie in the foredoomed-to-fail attempt to preserve our sentient existence and our relationship with our five-sensory experience into the future. Are you always aware of this fact as a matter of an omni-present intelligence at work?
What is your mortality awareness?
In many contemporary societies, people commonly negate death as what it is, and remembrances of mortality are seen as a burden and even depressing — what a misconception. The reason for low spirit is the deep silenced knowing that we will inevitably lose what we make us the belief to possess forever.
Only a strong experience that we have nothing to lose can prevent despair. Any worldly possessions can only temporarily and even hardly simulate the kind of freedom that our soul seeks.
Don’t we see that life energy is wasted to space? Many deceased are given more space to occupy than others have to live. Pretentious graves evidence the illusion of human life being connected to spacetime instead of humantime.
It’s time to develop the Awareness Intelligence of seeing the future through the lens of an extra-personal relationship with all humanity that carries the essence of life as a collective continuum.
Often future-related thoughts are worry-laden, for example, because of mind-wandering that is related to unfulfilled own goals or ambitions. The extra-future Awareness Intelligence mode enables the intentional generation of more positive and meaningful thoughts. Because these thoughts are related to the ever-ongoing life of which we are, however shortly in biological form, an eternal part of, they have an utterly positive effect on our feelings, moods, attitudes, and well-being overall.
It would be unfair to infect the future of the next generations with today’s social and cultural beliefs. We should not project our dreams into others. It’s not our dreams that should be realized through others; the realization of others own true selves has to become our mission. Parents, for example, are not intelligently aware if they expect their daughter or son to follow their footsteps or to become what they’ve always wished to be. Tragically, such parents would burn their child’s soul out by forcefully burn their neediness in there. The light that would shed on them would be a mere outside reflection. Although all human souls are of the same conscious energy and inextricably connected, every soul also has its own burning desire that needs to be respected even if impossible to express it explicitly.
Displaying reverence for life itself is the best role model one can be. Showing reverence is removing pressure, fear, and letting go of any selfish motives in how life is passed on. As we allow others to have their judgment-free intra-past without poisoning it with our own past and present, we leave them their future to unfold authentically. Their future too, however, is the same eternal life that inspires us all at all times. That’s why the intelligent future-related awareness mode is the extra-future, and not the intra- or inter-future. I’m not saying we should not spend time together with somebody who is more often closer to us over time. However,
To love one person is seeing the beauty of everyone.
“The one who plants trees, knowing that he will never sit in their shade, has at least started to understand the meaning of life,” as Rabindranath Tagore, Indian poet, philosopher, and artist said so beautifully.
The human soul wants to explore all humantime. Can you feel how this is true for yourself too? One sign of our soul wanting to expand is its ability and incline to think about the past and the future. It is looking for the openings into the timelessness, which are, its natural habitat. However, it takes us an awaring mental stretch into eternity that is, if we think along a virtual timeline, the reaching into ‘before birth’ and ‘after death.’ Such an expanded temporal awareness takes effort, but against differing beliefs, it is not about sacrificing at all. To lead an aware life is rewarding oneself with deeper and more impactful experiences in any aspect of life; experiences and impacts, which are farthest-reaching and everlasting.
Will you fear death at the time of its arrival? Did you fear birth at the time of occurring to you? Quite surely not. Why then do you fear death now? Both birth and death are coming and ending in the same that is the conscious source energy of everything and anytime. To think that way is Awareness Intelligence in action. Anita Moorjani in her book “Dying to be me!” describes the purpose of life, as revealed during her near-death experience, to be the expansion of the tapestry of life in which everyone and everything is mutually connected independent of time and physical presence.
Isn’t it beautiful to broaden the reach of our true self in and through our awareness of this beautiful ever-present infinite future that belongs to all?!
Often breakthrough findings are the simplest ones. If something can’t be explained easily, it is not well understood. If spirituality is advertised as requiring miraculous super-powers hold by few, it might be spiritual elitism that is not for all of us. An awareness-intelligent understanding of spirituality may be considered prosaic considering its modest level of mysticism involved, and yet it is whole and infinite, full of all the beauty and joy that life has to offer. Spirituality is simple and pure humaneness, it is the ultimate mental playground of human realization.
We are all spiritual beings; we just need to be aware of and practicing it.
To organize our thinking about life, mind, and soul is not creating a false god. Neither has a logical arrangement have to deteriorate into a dogmatic belief system. Indeed, what wisdom means for one person may have a completely different meaning and quality for somebody else. What feels right at one time becomes obsolete later on. It’s of limited usefulness to name a spiritual authority or to lay down religious rules and rituals if not for institutional interests.
However, there is a universal structure of life that we should all be aware of.
It is important to visualize the matrix of Awareness Intelligence to internalize it as a mental skeleton that will help you keep a healthy psycho-spiritual posture.
You can use the socio-temporal diagram as a template, but I recommend to imaginarily draw it in your mind again and again by yourself as it suits you. As a diagram, the vertical axis shows the increasing social scope of human relations. Starting from the intersection with the horizontal axis, which represents time, the first third of the vertical line shall be labeled ‘intra,’ which means ‘intrapersonal.’ The next, middle part of the vertical axis becomes ‘inter,’ which stands for the ‘inter-personal’ scope. The third and uppermost vertical section is the ‘extra,‘ which signifies ‘extra-personal.’ Now the horizontal axis. It partitions itself, in the order from left to right, into the ‘past,’ ‘present,’ and ‘future.’ Similar to a coordinate system, through these two both tripartite grid lines, a matrix can be formed. When using the vertical and horizontal axis’ labels in the same manner as the numerical coordinates of a map, or the letters and numbers of a chessboard, it is possible to identify the three times three – in total nine – fields of the matrix.
To describe Awareness Intelligence, the following three fields of the matrix are of primary interest:
It is first the reference of the ‘intra-past’ as it results from the projected intra-personal relating and past-timing.
The second matrix field we are going to focus on in more detail is the ‘inter-present,’
and the third one is the ‘extra-future.’
These are the three critical fields in the socio-temporal grid, each of which corresponds to a sub-category of Awareness Intelligence. The three tenets of Awareness Intelligence, therefore, are the ‘intra-past,’ the ‘inter-present,’ and the ‘extra-future.’
This coordinate system of human relations and modes of time is all we need for the validation of human awareness. Our quality of mind is determined by how we are positioning our thoughts regarding social relations and time. Intelligent awareness emerges when the three Awareness Intelligence categories harmoniously play together.
When we mentalize in a way that simultaneously includes our own past, our common present, and all humanity’s future, the whole scope of human experience unfolds.
Although the socio-temporal matrix comprises of nine fields, the focus is kept on the three healthily intelligent fields that support a sober watching mind and enable the benefits of individual, organizational, and universally shared well-being. The six less discussed parts of the grid implicitly reveal themselves as being related to problematic states of the mind like past-oriented judging of others, present feelings of obligations due to transactional relationships, and future-directed worries as concerned by one’s ego. In other words, focusing the intra-past, inter-present, and extra-future coordinate map fields does help to position inter-personal relationships unconditioned by time, and detach oneself from relationships and objects as not related to the present moment.
Having established the matrix of Awareness Intelligence with its three modes, we can now systematically navigate the intelligently observing mind in more detail and depth without getting lost. As much as we try, for example in romantic relationships, we can’t fully connect with other creatures on a physical level.
We want to unify so much that we sometimes try to become one body; in vain. It is only on a mental level that it is possible to transcend the separating physical forms and plug together into the life that is the soul,
respectively the animating spirit of everything and everyone. Only the collective of this life force of the human species persists into the future, long after my and your body will have died.
The awareness of this timeless extra-personal relationship with all humanity is what I call the ‘extra-future.’ As part of and as the culmination of Awareness Intelligence, it bears the biggest truth of spirituality.
Let’s start to exemplify Awareness Intelligence in the first necessary insight into the ‘intra-past.’ Purifying one’s self-perception leads the way to overcome self-inadequacy as achieved through the insight of the ‘inter-present,’ for the self then can courageously and lovingly complete into the continuous entirety of the ‘extra-future.’
Chapter 15 – The difference between Awareness Intelligence and Emotional Intelligence
Emotional Intelligence is an individual’s ability to monitor her or his feelings and those of others and therefore is an essential interpersonal competency. Beliefs and feelings are closely intertwined. Feelings are an important indicator of how a situation measures up against our socially and culturally shaped beliefs. Hence, feelings might have not much to do with our genuine human nature.
Feelings and more intense short-term emotions alike can seem overwhelming and be an all-consuming psychological state. There is always though, in minimum, some room for reasoning left.
To grasp the true nature of life, rational thinking helps to explore and direct one’s emotions. Emotions and attitudes are never the beginning; they are the result of thought, albeit not always rationally controlled thought. If you stick to your believe-based emotions, new ways of thinking might be hindered.
If you can deliberately change the way you think, if you can widen and sharpen your awareness at the same time, then you can create different emotions and if chosen wisely, feel better.
High levels of so-called emotional intelligence generally correlate with high levels of performance and success. However, there is the risk of over-relying on emotions with adverse effects on one’s mental states. Emotional understanding and the ability to manage emotions is not in itself a “good” or “bad” quality. One can perceive another person empathically and still not be aware of what that means for oneself and the broader context; therefore, neither empathy nor emotional intelligence do necessarily involve the development of compassion and the desire to help. On the other side, hypersensitivity to other’s emotions can be burdensome, contagious, and incapacitating supportive responses. If one is overwhelmed by others pain to the extent of getting sick oneself, nobody is helped. Rather than to merely intensify empathy,
It is more awareness-intelligent not to exaggerate but to broaden the responsiveness to other’s need for care.
Your beliefs and the way you feel about them come from your social upbringing, your education, your enculturation. If you were born somewhere else or at a different time, your language, religion, your beliefs about appropriate symbols, customs, and rules would be expected similar to anybody else in the same cultural milieu of that ages, but also entirely different from somebody in another temporal culture. No culture is a more or less legitimate way of living, but none of them represents an absolute truth either. There is, however, a fundamental lawfulness to human life. We need to choose how we put ourselves, others, and all humanity into relation to each other from the perspective of our life as well as from the standpoint of other generations and all human evolution. Without such a complete socio-temporal relationship, people across different realities of societies, cultures, and eras are continuing to insist on which would be the most likely illusion of their places and times.
Fortunately, we can choose to understand where we set the boundaries for exclusion, and how much back into the past and forth into the future we care.
It is this reference-system of humantime that would better guide our thought processes than a relatively random set of contemporary socio-cultural believes and sensitivities.
You are neither your emotions nor your feelings or thoughts as long as they are the mere aftereffect of somewhat limited awareness.
You are your watching mind of human relations in time. You are the entire and perennial conscious source intelligence you are coming from.
Use this gift to intelligently self-generate your thoughts in concord with all life. Awareness-intelligent thought is based on compassionate care that feels more deeply satisfying, moving, and human, while not being confusing or overwhelming after all.